Why turning off Messages before you begin your focus session is important. Your friends are interesting or they wouldn’t be your friends.


Andrew Harmel-Law is writing Facilitating Software Architecture while I am writing Learning Systems Thinking. Today we started a 30 day challenge using Writing Analytics. I’m not usually motivated by data tracking but this tool has improved my focus significantly. app.writinganalytics.co


Well, that’s a thing. 2023 was quite a year.


If you do the thing you most want to do – the thing you fear you can not do – you’ll discover your blockers. Success isn’t achieving your goals; goals are changed by experience. Success is transforming your relationship to whatever is holding you back.


Early in my career as a systems architect, I felt alone with the challenges I faced. Now, I am surrounded by people who understand. The key to our success is learning from each other and sharing insights. We are all in this together.

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A New Years Love Note to my Friends

I haven’t done a great job staying connected – for reasons I’ve described here. But I want you to know that I’m with you and feeling grateful.

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We’re watching Mullin. Super Paul Mullin. Playing in the FA Cup today. We want Wrexham to win. Go on and … beat Arsenal or ManCity but we hope they don’t draw Liverpool and we’d be torn if they play the Spurs.


Part 3 of Learning Systems Thinking has been added to the early release. It’s delightful to be this close to finishing the book. I look forward to your feedback! www.oreilly.com/library/v…


Snark is the best medicine. I’d already read every Murderbot book. Thank goodness, when I needed a Covid book friend, there was: The Kaiju Preservation Society by John Scalzi 📚


2024, Not a Great Start

Over the holidays, I had Covid. Symptoms began two weeks ago and I am still not recovered. For the first time in my career, I’ve had to cancel engagements and travel. This is both heartbreaking and a lesson. We need rest and self care. Whatever “push through it” career strategies we had before 2020, they are outdated.

The good news is, I’m reading more. Finished: The Space Between Worlds by Micaiah Johnson 📚


The Joy of Solitude

I resist bringing my full attention back to focused work, like a toddler who doesn’t want her face washed. Even though, focus is joy.

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Personhood

This week, my intention was to be more mindful when attending online work meetings. As I did, I noticed something: I’ve constructed a Me Who Goes to Meetings. Read More


Rest and Renew

I’ve learned essential lessons about rest and renewal over the last decade. For example, renewing my energy is the most trustworthy bellwether of career satisfaction and success. Which surprised me. Pushing less hard is counterintuitive.

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Wisdom crafters

Wisdom crafters are seekers of a philosophic sunrise. They work hard, often in the shadows, to discover insights that change our view of things. Sometimes gently. Sometimes like a bolt of lighting.

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In the midst of this

In the midst of the pandemic, during a retreat, I take a breath. When I stop constantly swimming towards more, I discover enough.


Notes from our home in New York

I wanted to live a Year of Enough. Now, I live in a pandemic epicenter where there is no more. Ironic, don’t you think? Inside all the uncertainty, I’m discovering the seeds of enough.


Educating at home during viral times

In the midst of the pandemic, many colleagues are working while their kids are schooling at home. A few have asked, via social media, for strategies. Having homeschooled for ten years, I have some! Here they are.


And then it got hard

It has been three weeks since I posted. In part because some difficult work consumed my writing energy. But mostly, because I ran smack into something I didn’t want to say out loud.


Stop hoarding todos and breathe

What I do is balanced and supported by all I don’t do. I’ve never been great at balance. Or taking deep breaths. Seems I’m learning both now.


Asking for help

When I hoard todos and refuse to ask for help, I stifle the Enough Economy. A lesson I recently learned for the bazillionth time.